- Are you ready to go to the next level of relationships without any baggage?
- What is it in your life that you want to accomplish, in your career and relationships?
- Are you ready for a life changing experience and are not sure what you want to do?
- Would you like to create a plan of action and have the support to get started?
- First of all, Coaches do not offer legal advice nor are we surrogate attorneys.
Coaches serve as your personal mentor throughout the entire divorce process, and we will assist you in sorting out the emotions from the business end of the divorce. There are numerous other benefits for clients who work with a Coach such as:
Overcoming the emotional problems, family issues, and life challenges that cause you stress, depression, anger, jealousy, anxiety, phobias, panic attacks, and other negative responses.
The coaching process is designed to help clients with goal achievement, decision-making, problem-solving, for developing a positive life transition. It is also opens an opportunity for clients to learn. The main focus is on the divorce and learning how to deal with and manage the chaos, challenges, and decisions that the act of divorce brings forth. Divorce is a hurtful, life altering change for everyone involved. Developing a clear understanding of the all the aspects and various stages is necessary for a positive change, which facilitates an easier transition for clients and enables them to remain calm, confident, patient, and directed.
Most often people are pelted with bad advice and poor direction from friends, family, neighbors, and want to be lawyers, which results in the client becoming overwhelmed, confused, and at time the situation can become dangerous!
Coaching can provide clients with the necessary support, motivation, and encouragement to go through the process, as well as grow and become self-empowered to plan for a bright and wonderful future.
Please keep in mind that coaching is designed to assist clients with decision-making, life transitions, and goal achievement for the betterment of your life and relationships.
However not all is lost there are a few things that you can do to help yourself.
Below are a few suggestions that may help you stay focused:
Do not Isolate: If you live in denial and you ignore the severity of the situation you begin to bury your head in the sand and hope that things will go away. Believe me it does not happen that way. It also delays your emotional healing and the act of moving forward. You’ll begin to push your loved ones and friends away. An important issue that needs to acknowledged, is that out of every bad situation you get in, there is always something extremely valuable to learn for the future that you’ll miss and you do not want to do that.
Grieving Time: Since Divorce Transitions usually accompany many painful experiences it is natural for people to want to hurry through them. By hurrying through them you will make more mistakes and miss important information that can assist you in preventing future relationship mistakes. Therefore, it is important for you to give yourself permission to properly grieve and learn as much as you can. However, you want to be careful not to get stuck in that position. Grieving is a process for healing and that takes a time.
Do not become a Control Freak: A common defense mechanism is taking control. Placing yourself in a position where you control everything in your life is ultimately devastating to you, family and friends, and future relationships. Eventually, you will begin to feel out of control and powerless; and then you’ll begin to overcompensate and begin micro-managing everyone. This will cause resentments and relationships will be negatively impacted. It is imperative that you avoid this type of behavior.
Be a Cop: As I stated earlier, you can learn a great deal through this unpleasant process. So become a cop. Use your intelligence and develop your own case. Be cognizant of what goes on around you and document, document, document. It is important for you to be aware of not only your, surroundings but more importantly as to what is going on inside of you, and what you are telling yourself. Beware of your self-talk, self-talk is that inner dialogue that everyone has that is self-destructive. Usually that self-talk is WRONG. I suggest that you document that dialogue for review later, it is very therapeutic for freeing yourself.
Accept that you are Human: Be willing to accept the fact that you are human and you make mistakes and it is OKAY as long as you learn from them. You do not need to know everything. If you accept that you are human and that you will make mistakes this will enable you to maintain an open heart and mind so that you can identify possible resources, opportunities, and answers you may not have considered before.
Believe in and Trust in Yourself : The Dalai Lama said, “Remember to do the 3 Rs, Respect your self, Respect Others, and Accept Responsibility for your actions.” During this transition you will experience many doubts, this is the time to trust yourself and accept that you might make a mistake, and it is OKAY! It is a must to believe in your heart that you can deal effectively with whatever life hands you. Remember that God will never hand more than you can handle, and believer that you are never alone in this life. The end result if you do these things is that you will be wiser, more confident, emotionally stronger, and a much better person for it.
Be in the Moment: Always, always regardless of how difficult it might be, it is important for you to stay in the moment…be present at all times. This is the only way you can know what is going on with you and about you. Fight the temptation to regress into denial or give up, or rush through this because you will loose focus and possibly stumble.
“Life is wonderful because it is all a choice, you can choose to either be happy or miserable…what do you choose?” by: Lee Braddock
“Adding Value to Your Life”
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